THC and libido

Question- any kind of THC, whether it’s edible, trees, or drinks will get me extremely horny (which I love) however, it also increases anxiety and paranoia. I’ve gone to many dispensaries asking for something relaxing w/ no anxiety but I’ve yet to find anything. Can anyone recommend a strain or something that will increase libido w/o anxiety? FYI - I’m a female. I say that because from what I’ve read, it seems libido for women increases more vs. men. Idk 🤷🏻‍♀️